Now I am what they call a “Nice Guy” and as the saying goes “Nice Guys Finish Last” which I totally believe so I have really been working to not be the nice guy but be the “Great Guy” because the reason Nice Guys Finish last are a few things. Nice guys are desperate, needy, insecure, high in supply but low in demand. Nice guys just want a girl to like them while a great guy likes himself and wants to live his life and the woman should want to join you gentelman. Because if you always want to be part of her life she will get bored and you will be coming off as desperate and this will trickle down in her social network.
Another thing that I have needed to work on is something that the KGB Mafia Man’s wife pointed out to me. I met up with them at a coffee shop and I just sat down and started talking to the KGB Mafia Man and she asked me if I liked her or not. She is a great gal but I made no effort to make any contact of any kind with her. Which she pointed out it sends the signal I want nothing to do with her. But in reality I was thinking something else this is the communication problem I had. Normally I think eye contact with a woman comes off as me being “creepy” but that is the way I think and not the way a common woman thinks. They want us to listen. If we guys talk to much woman tend to get bored. If you have seen 40 year old Virgin where he goes into the book shop and just asks the woman questions the woman thinks you really want to hear what she is saying. Which you should but this is a problem I have. I talk to damn much mostly from being nervous but most woman don’t really give a shit about why the latest iPod is so cool. What cell phone I plan to buy or what was on Last Weeks episode of Top Gear. I get this newsletter and it suggested that to talk to a woman is go learn something about her world by picking up a copy of Cosmo or whatever girl magazine is at the shelf because you will learn something. It’s a pretty great resource actually you can grab a copy of these magazines and read what woman are interested in so you will have something to talk about when you approach a woman you will have something to say and she will have a thought about it. Great way to break the ice takes less then 1min.
Now just changing these few things isn’t something hard to do. But as this thing I have been really into it says to Be a man but think like a woman. Because we are two totally different creatures as I said before look at magazines guys magazines are all about physical thngs. Cars, Bikini Babes, Computers, Cell Phones, etc. But a typical woman’s magazines have an appeal to Women they talk about romance, relationships, grooming tips, etc. If you have a bit of knowledge about such a matter great way to get a conversation started.
I would love to do a Podcast with a female cohost getting their prespective on how they approach relationships and what they think of guys. We are both different, We both think each other is confusing. I think by taking a few minutes a day and just thinking about how the opposite sex would think instead of brushing it off as stupid. The communication gates would open up and life would be so much better.
Just a Thought.